comments on mitda on Gloria Brame’s blog

Mithras Invicti wrote a post today on Gloria Brame’s blog quoting from a very self-revealing post by my mitda on her blog.

I don’t know Mithras well, although he and mitda are good friends.  But his post was very meaningful to me because he talked about her development in terms of self actualization.  Although Mithras discusses self actualization in more psychological terms and I discuss it in more philosophical terms, it is the most important aspect of our relationship to me.  The order I give my slaves that underlies all the little orders and directives is “become what you most are”.  Possibility is always higher than actuality for me.

People who have never and will never experience a TPE/IE relationship probably have a hard time understanding that we who are doing it do it, despite laws against it, despite societal censure, because it is who we most are.  Not that I’m pleading for D/s rights in this post. I enjoy doing what I do in defiance of society, because I find society wanting in so many ways.

My previous post mentioned “unlimited responsibility”.  As a TPE/IE Master I am 100% responsible for everything in my slaves’ lives.  This responsibility goes beyond anything that has been expected by society in the institutions of marriage or even parenthood.  And by this I mean that I am responsible for their possibilities, ensuring they have the opportunities to uncover them, develop them, and become them.  This is how I express my own highest possibility.  As a teacher I can show my slaves the beginnings of many of the paths they might travel on.  But I can’t go along them.  I have my own path and whether it is in fact the right one I don’t know, I won’t know until I’ve gone all the way along it.

Poly and Then Some: questions

Poly and Then Some: questions

My emmie came up with a post that has set my mind working and this is not going to be a definitive statement on it. The relationship between love and Mastery is extremely complex and more than a little mysterious to me. I’ve been trying to understand the relationship in terms of various types of care to this point but although I’m fairly confident in relating love as a type of care, it is so qualitatively different from other concerns, “cares”, troubles, responsibilities that it is difficult to pin down. Mastery is definitely akin to love in the responsibilities that it lays upon the Master, as love does to the lover. And I can’t really imagine a full fledged Mastery of someone without love being requisite. But then there’s the difference between love and “in love”, and the infinitely varying degrees of “in love”, and is passion the same as love in this instance or not? And of course I’m drawing out and pulling up more questions than answers myself.

TPE/IE and Unlimited Responsibility

An idea current in continental philosophy, inspired by the confrontation of Heidegger with Hegel and Nietzsche, the subsequent confrontation of Adorno and Derrida with Heidegger, and reading the latter confrontations as reworkings of the first two, is a concept called ‘Unlimited Responsibility”.

As a scholar in this area I’m familiar with many of the ideas original put forward under other rubrics, but the title of this thematic investigation grabbed me as being particularly relevant within the study of Total Power Exchange/Internal Enslavement.  Because total power exchange, for me, implies unlimited responsibility, not as an abstract idea, but as a real, binding challenge to people involved in TPE/IE.  Over the next while I am going to try to keep this thematic in view as I look at aspects of TPE/IE and its interactions.

I’ll finish this introduction today with a little quote about Heidegger’s difficulty for people willing to accept the challenge.

“Unlimited
responsibility is both a theme that pervades the space of intersection in which
Heidegger and his best readers meet, and also the challenge that Heidegger
offers us in reading him. Heidegger is one of ‘the few and the rare’ who set a standard
by which even those who disagree with him may be judged.“ – David Wood, Thinking After Heidegger.

comments on mitda on Gloria Brame’s blog

Mithras Invicti wrote a post today on Gloria Brame’s blog quoting from a very self-revealing post by my mitda on her blog.

I don’t know Mithras well, although he and mitda are good friends.  But his post was very meaningful to me because he talked about her development in terms of self actualization.  Although Mithras discusses self actualization in more psychological terms and I discuss it in more philosophical terms, it is the most important aspect of our relationship to me.  The order I give my slaves that underlies all the little orders and directives is “become what you most are”.  Possibility is always higher than actuality for me.

People who have never and will never experience a TPE/IE relationship probably have a hard time understanding that we who are doing it do it, despite laws against it, despite societal censure, because it is who we most are.  Not that I’m pleading for D/s rights in this post. I enjoy doing what I do in defiance of society, because I find society wanting in so many ways.

My previous post mentioned “unlimited responsibility”.  As a TPE/IE Master I am 100% responsible for everything in my slaves’ lives.  This responsibility goes beyond anything that has been expected by society in the institutions of marriage or even parenthood.  And by this I mean that I am responsible for their possibilities, ensuring they have the opportunities to uncover them, develop them, and become them.  This is how I express my own highest possibility.  As a teacher I can show my slaves the beginnings of many of the paths they might travel on.  But I can’t go along them.  I have my own path and whether it is in fact the right one I don’t know, I won’t know until I’ve gone all the way along it.

TPE/IE and Unlimited Responsibility

An idea current in continental philosophy, inspired by the confrontation of Heidegger with Hegel and Nietzsche, the subsequent confrontation of Adorno and Derrida with Heidegger, and reading the latter confrontations as reworkings of the first two, is a concept called ‘Unlimited Responsibility”. 

As a scholar in this area I’m familiar with many of the ideas original put forward under other rubrics, but the title of this thematic investigation grabbed me as being particularly relevant within the study of TPE/IE.  Because total power exchange, for me, implies unlimited responsibility, not as an abstract idea, but as a real, binding challenge to people involved in TPE/IE.  Over the next while I am going to try to keep this thematic in view as I look at aspects of TPE/IE and its interactions.

I’ll finish this introduction today with a little quote about Heidegger’s difficulty for people willing to accept the challenge.

“Unlimited
responsibility is both a theme that pervades the space of intersection in which
Heidegger and his best readers meet, and also the challenge that Heidegger
offers us in reading him. Heidegger is one of ‘the few and the rare’ who set a standard
by which even those who disagree with him may be judged.“ – David Wood, Thinking After Heidegger.

mitda’s wonderful post

For anyone who thinks we are destroying family values (sic) with our lifestyle, have a read of my mitda’s post about her life and our family.

http://quietknowledge.wordpress.com/2007/07/31/then-and-now-really-its-like-this/

Long Train Till Dawn

I woke up a good deal early after taking some medicine and hitting the hay early last night.  Still feeling rather manicky, going a million miles an hour.  Bought a couple new laptops online, posted a bunch to collarchat and theslaveregister forums.  Started a google group for Masters involved in TPE/IE.  Now I’m waiting for E to get ready for work so I can shower and get ready in relative peace.  emmie showering me is relaxing and I think it might help slow the pace a little this morning, so rather than rushing and doing it myself I’m going to try to take my time.

Hm, “Talk about the Passion” just came on.  Would have made a good title for this blog overall.  Perhaps sometime I’ll change it, but my small readership knows the current name for now.

mitda’s wonderful post

For anyone who thinks we are destroying family values (sic) with our lifestyle, have a read of my mitda’s post about her life and our family.

http://quietknowledge.wordpress.com/2007/07/31/then-and-now-really-its-like-this/

Long Train Till Dawn

I woke up a good deal early after taking some medicine and hitting the hay early last night.  Still feeling rather manicky, going a million miles an hour.  Bought a couple new laptops online, posted a bunch to collarchat and theslaveregister forums.  Started a google group for Masters involved in TPE/IE.  Now I’m waiting for E to get ready for work so I can shower and get ready in relative peace.  emmie showering me is relaxing and I think it might help slow the pace a little this morning, so rather than rushing and doing it myself I’m going to try to take my time.

Hm, “Talk about the Passion” just came on.  Would have made a good title for this blog overall.  Perhaps sometime I’ll change it, but my small readership knows the current name for now.

Convoluted Day

The last post completely upset mitda.  We worked it out – I think she understands my viewpoint better now without my having had to be too heavy handed.  emmie was another side to the story, but I’ll get back to that in a future post, I hope (you can see emmie’s own story on her blog listed on the blogroll to the left).

It was a weird day all round.  It came to the point where I had to deal with my co-worker’s sulkiness directly and get us back on track to test our development work and put it into production.  At the same time I am discussing with a high profile firm a new position that could possibly involve some high level management work and systems architecture, rather than the grunt work I’ve mostly been stuck with since moving countries out of the blue last year.  It would be very nice to be involved at a decision making level again.

I hope this humidity and damp quits soon.  We’ve had the 3rd wettest summer on record here this year and the constant gray and humid air is dragging me out badly.  Anyone have an extra sun lamp they want to donate?  I really didn’t expect to need one in Texas.