Monthly Archives: May 2007

Narcolepsy Bites

Yea, I get prescriptions for adderall which makes anyone in the know slightly envious. But overall having narcolepsy really bites. I had the day off today and decided to give my body a bit of a rest from the speed, so after a couple of strong coffees and a decent morning I, of course, had to sleep. When I finally woke up with most of the day wasted I felt somewhat nauseated and within an hour also had to enter the vomitorium.

Ah well, enough physical issues. In the middle of family fuckery last night it began to lightning storm, the wind got up, and eventually a mixture of hail and rain came down. Delightful! At least to those of us that love storms and associate them with sex.

The otherSein took our gf to the doctor yesterday and she failed the bipolar test with flying colours. Another gf off to see the psychiatrist. Let’s see, that means the last five serious relationships I’ve had have been with other bipolars. I thought opposites attracted.

I’ve been researching polyamory and bdsm online and come to the conclusion that, at least as far as the real thing goes, either there isn’t much of it around or it isn’t talked about online. I did find one blog with a poly/bdsm triad, none with a quad of course. It may be a bit of a strange family configuration but for some reason I have a feeling it will work if we put reasonable effort into it. Right now the otherSein is showing a lot of reactance and my response to it has been mixed, while the gf is so very new to submission that she needs constant reminding. The combination can be wearing.

The male partner in our quad is the one that has shown the most equanimity with all the changes to his lifestyle over the last few months. I envy him his calm in dealing with three odd characters, all bipolars, all into bdsm, and sharing his bed.

More later
das


End of the M. ?

When I met my wife and sub, she was involved in a D/s relationship with another woman. Eventually the woman involved “gave” her to me as a collared girl, but retained her position as my wife’s mastress.

This created an interesting situation, to be sure, but since the mastress lived over a thousand miles away their relationship was confined to online time and phone conversations, much as ours had been until mitda packed up from L.A. and moved to Toronto to live with me.

Even online relationships suffer from the impingements of reality such as lack of time to spend together, and not feeling at least “as” preferred by one’s partner relative to their other committments. And this seems in fact to have happened to my wife and her mastress. Since it is easier to avoid someone online than someone one happens to live with, my wife, after writing a damning email, simply stopped being available by IM or phone to her mastress.

This has put me in a bit of a quandary. In general masters/doms support one another, and a sub, even if no longer collared, just walking away is an odd position for a master to be put in. But I empathize with my wife’s reasons as well.

m. mitdasein

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End of the M. ?

When I met my wife and sub, she was involved in a D/s relationship with another woman. Eventually the woman involved “gave” her to me as a collared girl, but retained her position as my wife’s mastress.

This created an interesting situation, to be sure, but since the mastress lived over a thousand miles away their relationship was confined to online time and phone conversations, much as ours had been until mitda packed up from L.A. and moved to Toronto to live with me.

Even online relationships suffer from the impingements of reality such as lack of time to spend together, and not feeling at least “as” preferred by one’s partner relative to their other committments. And this seems in fact to have happened to my wife and her mastress. Since it is easier to avoid someone online than someone one happens to live with, my wife, after writing a damning email, simply stopped being available by IM or phone to her mastress.

This has put me in a bit of a quandary. In general masters/doms support one another, and a sub, even if no longer collared, just walking away is an odd position for a master to be put in. But I empathize with my wife’s reasons as well.

m. mitdasein

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Quite the changes year over year.

The otherSein and I met another poly couple on New Year’s Eve, how apropos. And betwixt then and now have set up house together, merged our finances and for all intents and purposes are living as four people all married together. It helps that we all fell in love with each other.

It was also a great opportunity to get rid of the moth-in-law. My 2nd wife is now also my 2nd submissive and trying hard, although it’s all new to her.

More to come soon as I revive this blog. And if you have an extra $30 purchase the new English translation “Mindfulness” by Martin Heidegger. There are single paragraphs in that book that describe the current state of the world with more depth than the average political or philosophical book in their entirety.

Das