Monthly Archives: June 2007

Finally!

After a few years and some objections from my primary my poly family agreed to my desire for another motorcycle.  Yes, I could have simply bought one, but sometimes consensus is preferable to domination, even for a dominant.

The bike is a simple one, a good learner bike, and so it will be good for the other male member of the household, who would like to learn but has never ridden one before.   And it was cheap and will keep me happy for the year and a half or so I need to be able to afford the bike I really want.  Hell, anything is fun to ride and as long as it can do the speed limit on any highway I don’t actually *need* more. 

Emelina is looking forward to going for rides with me.  Mitda is more circumspect but she seems to have given in to the fact that she *is* going to get on the back of a motorcycle.

– Mitdasein


Finally!

After a few years and some objections from my primary my poly family agreed to my desire for another motorcycle.  Yes, I could have simply bought one, but sometimes consensus is preferable to domination, even for a dominant.

The bike is a simple one, a good learner bike, and so it will be good for the other male member of the household, who would like to learn but has never ridden one before.   And it was cheap and will keep me happy for the year and a half or so I need to be able to afford the bike I really want.  Hell, anything is fun to ride and as long as it can do the speed limit on any highway I don’t actually *need* more. 

Emelina is looking forward to going for rides with me.  Mitda is more circumspect but she seems to have given in to the fact that she *is* going to get on the back of a motorcycle.

– Mitdasein


"Getting Away with It"

From a vanilla person’s standpoint showing mercy in the event of a punishable offence is laudable, “nice”, etc.  To a dominant it feels irresponsible, and to a slave it feels uncaring and neglectful.  Because I’m not in a dominant mindset 24/7 (just the reality of any 24/7 relationship – you’re not always in the mode) I made the crucial mistake of being merciful on a number of occasions, and wound up with two very upset, unsatisfied slaves feeling completely neglected and uncared for.

Punishment for punishable offences has to be dealt out fairly, coldly (never in anger), and consistently.  It is, really, the only way for the slave to feel that their owner cares and would do anything for them.  “Abuse” in a D/s relationship means neglect.  Trying to get this across in the vanilla world would likely end me up in jail.  But it’s the reality of my life path.  “Getting away with it” simply cannot be allowed, because all it means to the slave is neglect..


"Getting Away with It"

From a vanilla person’s standpoint showing mercy in the event of a punishable offence is laudable, “nice”, etc.  To a dominant it feels irresponsible, and to a slave it feels uncaring and neglectful.  Because I’m not in a dominant mindset 24/7 (just the reality of any 24/7 relationship – you’re not always in the mode) I made the crucial mistake of being merciful on a number of occasions, and wound up with two very upset, unsatisfied slaves feeling completely neglected and uncared for.

Punishment for punishable offences has to be dealt out fairly, coldly (never in anger), and consistently.  It is, really, the only way for the slave to feel that their owner cares and would do anything for them.  “Abuse” in a D/s relationship means neglect.  Trying to get this across in the vanilla world would likely end me up in jail.  But it’s the reality of my life path.  “Getting away with it” simply cannot be allowed, because all it means to the slave is neglect..


Domestic Discipline

Atlhough mentioned in the description of the blog, I haven’t really talked at all about DD in the blog itself.  This week I came up with a list of household tasks (stolen from a Microsoft Excel template – thank you MS, lol) for the two slaves.  It wound up being fairly easy, my just being able to assign basically what each already does, but formalizing it seems to have made the whole quad happier about the needs around the house.

Not that this comes close to the reality of what domestic discipline should mean.  For my new slave it is an impossible ideal while she works full time.  It is a closer reality for mitda, who has not worked outside the home for some time.  The plan is for emelina to enter retirement from outside work later this year and be a full time service girl for me and the other male household member


Domestic Discipline

Atlhough mentioned in the description of the blog, I haven’t really talked at all about DD in the blog itself.  This week I came up with a list of household tasks (stolen from a Microsoft Excel template – thank you MS, lol) for the two slaves.  It wound up being fairly easy, my just being able to assign basically what each already does, but formalizing it seems to have made the whole quad happier about the needs around the house.

Not that this comes close to the reality of what domestic discipline should mean.  For my new slave it is an impossible ideal while she works full time.  It is a closer reality for mitda, who has not worked outside the home for some time.  The plan is for emelina to enter retirement from outside work later this year and be a full time service girl for me and the other male household member


A Little Time Alone



Tonight we
are going to do the club scene again.  Last weekend was a qualified
success, with emelina and I going to one type of club and mitda and e
going to another to suit different tastes.  Tonight we attempt again to
find one that we all like.  emelina and mitda are currently out
shopping for last minute necessities for the outing.  e and his
youngest kidlet are at Six Flags hopefully getting rather wet and
having a good time.

Living in a poly household, I don’t really spend much time alone.  Oh,
I might be in the office while others are in the bedroom or the garage,
but not actually alone in the house.  It’s both a relief and a
frustration. 


Vanilla after kink?

The latest post, entitled “Vanilla” on the blog “Confessions of an English Gentleman” (see roll), by an excellent writer on D/s btw, voiced something I had wondered about for a long time. I have personal reasons for disbelieving that such a transformation is possible, and my only experience with someone attempting it is not changing my mind.

Mitdasein


A Little Time Alone



Tonight we
are going to do the club scene again.  Last weekend was a qualified
success, with emelina and I going to one type of club and mitda and e
going to another to suit different tastes.  Tonight we attempt again to
find one that we all like.  emelina and mitda are currently out
shopping for last minute necessities for the outing.  e and his
youngest kidlet are at Six Flags hopefully getting rather wet and
having a good time.

Living in a poly household, I don’t really spend much time alone.  Oh,
I might be in the office while others are in the bedroom or the garage,
but not actually alone in the house.  It’s both a relief and a
frustration. 


Vanilla after kink?

The latest post, entitled “Vanilla” on the blog “Confessions of an English Gentleman” (see roll), by an excellent writer on D/s btw, voiced something I had wondered about for a long time. I have personal reasons for disbelieving that such a transformation is possible, and my only experience with someone attempting it is not changing my mind.

Mitdasein