Category Archives: blogging

More Shit n Things

It’s been a difficult few weeks, really, what with dealing with the USCIS, mitda stressing about her getting a job, Luc stressing over money and emmie still a bit yo-yo-ish in the mood department.

However things are seemingly looking up. I have two interviews today, one by phone the other in person, and I usually do quite well in interviews. It also seems that mitda is mostly over her bronchitis or similar URI and emmie is calmer, if not entirely stable. Along the way we cut back on family expenses by trading a car for an older model, and various other pushbacks on expenses, so once I start working again it shouldn’t be a situation where both Luc and my salaries go completely to bills.
The 9 yr old, emmie’s son, has hit the “why?” period. Yes I know 9 is very late but this is one of the places we see his developmental lateness (he is high functioning autistic). Unfortunately it’s even harder to be patient while a 9 yr old goes through it than when a 4 yr old goes through it. It’s just not cute, lol. We will have to try to stay as patient as possible though and hope he goes through it as quickly as possible.


Blogging Clearly

Often blogging helps a complex situation by clarifying how each person sees things that are happening. In our case we read each others’ blogs and other writing, and I find writing things out leads to a healthy self-discipline in being clear with each other and making less assumptions. Unfortunately emmie and I don’t always like to be that clear, she works out her thoughts until they are clear to her but not necessarily to anyone else, and I have an esoteric vocabulary that comes from a good deal of study.

It can get upsetting when your words seem clear to you but not to others, as mine often do. I’ve been making a concerted effort to be more clear in my language without modifying the intent of what I’m saying, hopefully it’s helping people get what I say without too much confusion : ).


Back to it

I haven’t had much time to keep up with my blog lately, what with working an 8 hr day and spending 4 hours in the car in total to get there and back. Not that I don’t want to keep it up, but it gets grinding and I was definitely looking forward to the weekend.

Keeping up an M/s relationship in these conditions poses its challenges as well. The girls need direction and I’m often not as available as I would like to provide it. I have ideas as to making the task of setting tasks and reviewing them more efficient but that in itself takes energy and time to implement. So we’re all getting by.

Preparations for mitda’s surgery are not as far along as I would like, as a family we have to realize that the person primarily responsible for meals, shopping and a host of other things will be completely out of commission for some time, and everyone has to pick up the slack no matter what their personal schedules look like.

We went to a dinner party mostly made up of M/s couples, triads etc. tonight and it was a welcome social relief from the draconian world where I work, and the current pressures of home life. It made me remember why we do these things. Not, obviously so that when we go out we have M/s people to go out with, lol, but watching the interaction and feeling so at ease because these people understand how we are and how we choose to live confirms me again in following our hearts and minds and living as we want to.


Goodbye Windows Server 2008

Well it’s back to OpenSolaris as Windows Server 08 had one problem after another, first the network list service crapped out, then COM+, then FTP no longer worked. Sigh, I guess RC0 is still not ready for prime time.


Working in the Middle of the Night

It’s an odd feeling working through the night at Domus Daedali. For one I tend to work in the bedroom, really I do a lot of things in the bedroom, besides the obvious ones. But this bedroom is home of Bed Major, a 9 ft wide combination of beds put together that serves to sleep all the adult population of the house. Yes all four of us sleep together in one room, one bed. And we all have laptops on wireless. In fact I have two of them. So back to working.

I often work from home, particularly on my latest contract, where due to the nature of what I’m doing (this part of the project is pretty much solo, it involves doing work at a client site I’m not yet allowed to visit, etc.) I gain no apparent advantage by being in the office. One thing people who never work from home don’t realize is that you tend to work harder at home. Sure you take breaks whenever you feel like it and such, but you make yourself always available by phone and at least within a few minutes by IM, and you take on and commit to producing much more work than you would have at the office so that nobody will think you’re slacking.

So I wind up with work due at 9am, and it’s 3:57. And my eyes are damn tired. In fact I decided to blog simply because I can’t go to sleep, but for various nefarious reasons have to do my work work on a laptop with a crappy screen, when I own a Thinkpad with a beautfiful clear bright screen, and can only use it for personal stuff. *sigh*

But there are some wonderful things about so often being up while everyone is asleep (I’m an inveterate insomniac even when there’s no work due). I can listen to mitda’s sweet little snores. emmie cuddles up against my leg in her sleep. Jubal sends me into stark amazement every night by his ability to be asleep within 90 seconds of hitting the bed, and staying asleep barring trips to the bathroom until it is his appointed time to get up.

Damn I love my family.


Working in the Middle of the Night

It’s an odd feeling working through the night at Domus Daedali. For one I tend to work in the bedroom, really I do a lot of things in the bedroom, besides the obvious ones. But this bedroom is home of Bed Major, a 9 ft wide combination of beds put together that serves to sleep all the adult population of the house. Yes all four of us sleep together in one room, one bed. And we all have laptops on wireless. In fact I have two of them. So back to working.

I often work from home, particularly on my latest contract, where due to the nature of what I’m doing (this part of the project is pretty much solo, it involves doing work at a client site I’m not yet allowed to visit, etc.) I gain no apparent advantage by being in the office. One thing people who never work from home don’t realize is that you tend to work harder at home. Sure you take breaks whenever you feel like it and such, but you make yourself always available by phone and at least within a few minutes by IM, and you take on and commit to producing much more work than you would have at the office so that nobody will think you’re slacking.

So I wind up with work due at 9am, and it’s 3:57. And my eyes are damn tired. In fact I decided to blog simply because I can’t go to sleep, but for various nefarious reasons have to do my work work on a laptop with a crappy screen, when I own a Thinkpad with a beautfiful clear bright screen, and can only use it for personal stuff. *sigh*

But there are some wonderful things about so often being up while everyone is asleep (I’m an inveterate insomniac even when there’s no work due). I can listen to mitda’s sweet little snores. emmie cuddles up against my leg in her sleep. Jubal sends me into stark amazement every night by his ability to be asleep within 90 seconds of hitting the bed, and staying asleep barring trips to the bathroom until it is his appointed time to get up.

Damn I love my family.


A Family that Blogs Together …

Blogging together can be an odd sort of
family activity. In our case, with our little BDSM D/s TPE family it
can often be the easiest way of getting things that are difficult to
say face to face onto the record. Since all of our blogs are
blogrolled on each blog it also gives the outside reader a chance to
see the dynamic from all three angles. Unfortunately E isn’t
represented. He doesn’t blog. And he’s not truly part of the TPE
trio, he prefers to just top in bed and be an equal during the day.

It struck me especially seeing each of
our reactions to the BDSM bash over the weekend. My rather slurry
response (blame the lack of adderall) was much different from mitda’s
or emelina’s reactions.

Today’s blog by emelina, where she
talks about how much she appreciates her collar, was a nice suprise
and a push, if one were needed, for me to provide this family with the love
and appreciation that it provides me.


A Family that Blogs Together …

Blogging together can be an odd sort of
family activity. In our case, with our little BDSM D/s TPE family it
can often be the easiest way of getting things that are difficult to
say face to face onto the record. Since all of our blogs are
blogrolled on each blog it also gives the outside reader a chance to
see the dynamic from all three angles. Unfortunately E isn’t
represented. He doesn’t blog. And he’s not truly part of the TPE
trio, he prefers to just top in bed and be an equal during the day.

It struck me especially seeing each of
our reactions to the BDSM bash over the weekend. My rather slurry
response (blame the lack of adderall) was much different from mitda’s
or emelina’s reactions.

Today’s blog by emelina, where she
talks about how much she appreciates her collar, was a nice suprise
and a push, if one were needed, for me to provide this family with the love
and appreciation that it provides me.