I thought I would post some thoughts on the subject, since although the girls have been collared for some time, mitda for a fair length of time, last weekend we did a collaring ceremony for them together, and as a result it is closer to top of mind than it has been for a while.
Firstly, I love that they are collared. Their beauty seems that much more radiant wearing their collars, and now that they can both wear their collars 24/7 they are a constant reminder to me of my luck and joy at mastering them. They are also a constant reminder of my responsibilities in mastering them, and the standard which I have to try to live to. I am currently studying the concept of unlimited responsibility, something that I think is particularly apropos and necessary in a TPE relationship.
Not that things are always perfect at House Daedalus. The fact that the collars are identical reminds me of the occasional rivalry between slaves, the envy or jealousy that can poison any poly household. And treating two very different people differently, as they require, but still equally, as they desire, is a difficult balancing act at times, and one I don’t always succeed at.
mitda and I, as a former vanilla married couple, had the easiest transition to a TPE lifestyle. emmie and I have a few more hurdles to climb. We are in a poly married situation as far as our vanilla sex lives go, but it is new and like any newlyweds we are still learning each other’s tastes, wants and predilections. And we have our pre-existing, comfortable relationships with our legal spouses to fall back on when things become tense for any reason. That my spouse is also her sister slave makes her feel insecure. That her spouse is a “top” sexually, and beginning to dominate in a bedroom bdsm sense, is an additional element and tension for me. Don’t get me wrong – I wouldn’t trade any aspect of my family for any other in the world, but it’s only by being honest about the tensions that they will be resolved, as I always trust that they will. The love I have for emmie, Jubal and mitda, and the love between all of us, makes all the tensions worth it, all the difficulties a temporary thing, and my overall life satisfying and full of joy.